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“The Bold World,” a memoir about acceptance and parenting a transgender child with love

January 31, 2019
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Amidst the artic chill that blanketed our country this week, my Spelman sister, dear friend and world recognized activist Jodie Patterson released her first book, The Bold World,  A memoir of family and transformation.At its heart, this moving memoir is about a mother who makes a decision to love her transgender child and give him the freedom to choose his destiny. “He,” Penelope, was physically born a girl. Yet, at a young age, “he” knew that while the outside of body may say girl, his heart and brain screamed boy. Penelope refused to be trapped by what we perceive as gender boxes. He made his decision very clear. But would his parents throw everything out the window that they had learned about parenting and raising a child up? Jodie faced the very difficult decision on whether she would give who she thought was “her little girl” the permission to be exactly who “he” was. It doesn’t spoil the book to tell you that YES, she fully supported Penelope deciding to live life as a boy. She gave him best gift we can give anyone we love: freedom. But the irony is that in the process of allowing Penelope to be his true self, Jodie discovers her true self as well by diving deep into her american, black and very female roots.

As I watch Jodie make the morning talk show rounds this week to promote The Bold World and embark on her nationwide book tour, my heart is full with joy to witness her burgeoning success. For years our friends and “framily” have watched Jodie openly parent each of her five children with a guiding principle, “love first.” As you can imagine, this has not been an easy road. But with Jodie, we only receive the authentic version. The full truth. She was always honest with our tribe about Penelope’s journey, both the hard and joyous parts. She taught each of us that gender terms are obselete in her 2017 Ted Talk and through her work as an active board member on the Human Rights Campaign, our largest human rights organization.

Long before Jodie decided to share this story with the world, she shared it with us, her friends and family, because she knew that educating our community and tribe was her first hurdle. It wasn’t enough to just change his clothing from pink to blue, from dresses to trousers or from bows to Jordans. She deeply understood that for Penelope to truly thrive as he matured into a young man, our community needed to understand and accept who he was and why her family had decided to transform and accept. She never tried to hide or keep secret what was happening in her house. Penelope ran wildly through the beautiful beaches of Martha’s Vineyard with the other little boys making sand castles and battling the famous Cape Cod waves. Jodie posted about his struggles on social media. She unpacked her fears and doubts at dinner parties and in long girlfriend talks on the beach. Through this honest sharing of her family’s journey, she slowly changed each of us and made us kinder and less judgmental. She helped us see Penelope through her eyes and made us love and respect his courageous story as much as she did.

The Bold World is a memoir of love and acceptance. It tears apart our learned behaviors on gender and family and teaches us a new way to think. In her glowing book review, Alice Walker, author of The Color Purple, says that “The Bold World reminds me of the best things we have learned from uniquely instructive sojourn as black People in America. To be watchful, to pay attention; to make every attempt to comprehend reality; to believe that life flows in the direction of the real, which is to say, of the true. It is a marvelous book.”

Perhaps it is ironic that The Bold Wold is released the very same week that Jussie Smollet was viciously attacked on a Chicago street for being black, gay and different.  I say it’s fortuitous. We currently live in a world sharply divided by politics. We are a society grappling with whether we will accept the inherent differences in each of us or whether we will fight to continue the lie that civilization is meant to be homogeneous. Nothing has changed. We have never been the same. We have always been different: blond hair, brunette, black, Asian, white, African, southern, vegetarian, farmers, urban dwellers, homosexual, heterosexual … the list goes on and on. Perhaps now with social media which is the democratization of all media, we are confronted with our “differences” daily in a way that makes the lie impossible to continue. We are a country once again at a crossroad in the same way we found ourselves after the Civil War, during Vietnam or at the height of the Civil Rights Movement. Will we lean into hate or will we decide to love each other, differences and all?

At almost 50 years old, Jodie Patterson writes a story of how her sweet little boy reshapes her thinking on what it means to fully support another human being. My hope is that The Bold World will play a role in changing every person who dares to read this significant book and allow it to help transform their misconceptions about what it means to be labeled lesbian, bisexual transgender or questioning.

As always, thank you for stopping by Jackie Unfiltered. Click HERE to purchase a copy of The Bold World. And Jodie, I am overwhelmed with pride for you right now. Carry on “queen.” Continue to transform the world; boldly; unapologetically; and without fear. Only LOVE.

Xoxo,
Jackie

Entrees, Food, Uncategorized

Low Carb Bacon, Garlic Okra Recipe with Apple Cider Vinegar Finish

January 29, 2019
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So Okra is one of those green “old school” vegetables that folks have a visceral reaction: either it’s “HATE IT” or “LOVE IT.” The ones that love it know that Okra is delicious whether fried to a crisp (everything is good fried by the way…even a flip flop), pickled in vinegar with herbs and spices, tossed in soups or stews like my famous Instant Pot Gumbo Recipe or sautéed with bacon fat like I did for today’s late lunch. I don’t mind the “sliminess” of Okra so I even enjoy it freshly picked out the garden and then boiled whole with onions, garlic, peppercorns and kosher salt. Once it’s nice and tender, just strain off the liquid and then enjoy the okra as a side dish with a nice vinegar pepper sauce. As the elder says, “that’s good eating right there.”

If you are part of the “I love Okra crew” like moi, then you will love this easy recipe that only has a few ingredients: Okra (obvi), Bacon, Fresh Garlic, Freshly Ground Pepper, Bragg’s Apple Cider Vinegar and Bragg’s 24 Herbs & Spices Seasoning.

If you’re trying to eat healthy and watch your sodium intake (you should be trying to eat healthy and watch your sodium intake by the way), then you need a jar or three of Bragg’s 24 Herbs and Spices Seasoning at your desk, in your home office, in you purse and certainly in your kitchen. As I wrote about HERE, this multi-purpose seasoning taste amazing on everything from meals to snacks. The herbs included in this jar of goodness is all the good stuff from rosemary, onion, garlic, lemon peel and orange peel to thyme, red bell pepper, carrot, tomato and olive oil. Trust Jackie on this one. This seasoning is a quick way to inject lots of flavor into foods without a bunch of added preservatives and junk.

Low Carb Bacon, Garlic Okra Recipe with Apple Cider Vinegar Finish

This quick recipe of frozen okra, bacon, garlic and spices is a perfect side dish or light entree.  Low-Carb, Paleo & Keto Friendly.  For vegans, substitute olive or coconut oil and smoked sea salt for the bacon.  

Prep Time 5 minutes
Cook Time 7 minutes
Total Time 12 minutes

Ingredients

  • 1 Pound (16 oz bag) Frozen Slice Okra
  • 3 Slices Thick Cut Bacon Julienned
  • 2 Cloves Garlic Minced
  • 1 Tsp Bragg Sprinkle Herb & Spice Seasoning
  • Freshly Ground Pepper
  • 3 Tbsp Apple Cider Vinegar

Instructions

  1. Heat a saute pan on medium-high heat.  Saute bacon until fat is rendered and bacon is just beginning to get crispy.  Add Okra and season with Herb & Spice Seasoning and Freshly Ground Pepper.  Stir occasionally.  Once the okra begins to soften and thaw (about 2 mins), reduce the heat to medium and then fold in garlic.  At this point, watch the pan closely so the garlic does not burn, stirring constantly.  

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  2. Once the okra is fork tender but still has crunch (about 1-2 mins more), turn the heat to high and add apple cider vinegar deglazing the pan.  Let the vinegar reduce until no liquid remains (about 1 mins) stirring constantly.  Once the liquid has fully evaporated, remove from heat.  Taste and adjust the seasoning according to your taste.  Serve and ENJOY!

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As always, thank you for stopping by Jackie Unfiltered. Let us know in the comments below: How do you feel about Okra?

xoxo,
Jackie

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Fashion, Uncategorized

Rainy Dayz Layering

January 25, 2019
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Our 2019 “No Shopping Challenge for 6 mos” continues…. It’s not as hard as I thought. Well, in patent honesty, I do “kind of” miss pulling the trigger on upcoming Spring/Summer items. Net-A-Porter had the nerve to do an e-mail blast yesterday about its curated online boutique dedicated to Columbian clothing designers. My absolute fave. Nonetheless, I stand strong in the “no shopping” fight. The question is, “are you still with me?”

As for today’s #OOTD, it’s a rainy 55 degrees in NYC which means muggy, overcast and grossly wet right now but likely to get chillier as the day drags on. I am currently on the metro North train for a play date with one of my longtime girlfriends. I decided on chunky layers that I can pull off if I get warm and pile back on later today when temps drop.

I bought the jacket I’m wearing in December at the NYC “In Her Shoes” Shopping Bazaar which features consumer good from female entrepreneurs. The jacket is never worn. It’s oversized like I prefer my outerwear and a little kitschy cool with the graffiti on the back.

This chunky marigold sweater is one of my Fall 2018 splurges from cult favorite Michael Kors Collection. I love the bright warm color which pairs perfectly with red and khaki. I have only worn this fab sweater once which is a travesty as that makes my cost per wear completely awful. You will see this baby again, including with white jeans come spring!

Lesson Learned Today: We can spend more time planning to wear the nice items we actually own if we stop searching for new stuff to buy. Seems obvious I know but not necessarily so for us serial shoppers.

That’s all folks. How’s it coming with your personal “no new retail in 2019” experience? Anything shaking? It’s been a minute since we chatted. Hope you’re well!

Xoxo,
Jackie

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Entrees, Food, Uncategorized

Lemon Butter Garlic Chicken Thighs with Zuchini Noodles

January 23, 2019
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Last night’s healthy dinner of Lemon Butter Garlic Chicken Thighs with Zuchini Noodles caused quite a stir on Instagram @jackieunfiltered_ and Facebook. So much so that I decided to write this easy and flavorful recipe up and pop it here on the blog for all of you. You’re welcome!

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In advance, excuse the quality of food photography here. The dish was so good that #Hubbs and I devoured the pan meaning no leftovers today for proper pics.

This low-carb/paleo/keto/healthy recipe is straightforward using common kitchen techniques, ordinary spices found in most kitchens and inexpensive and easy-to-find ingredients. The key to culinary success here is marinating the chicken for at least 30 minutes, making sure your vegetables are chopped and ready before you begin (French culinary technique called mise en place) and watching your cooking times so nothing is over- or under-cooked.

I use healthy fats in this recipe, Ghee and Coconut oil, which both have a high burn rate. I also use a little butter for the vegetables as well. If butter offends your sensitive sensibilities then use olive oil or another oil such as avocado. However, I will caution you before you make the swap. Unless you have a heart condition or a doctor has advised you to watch your cholesterol and fat then you should be fine with the butter. I suggest you try the recipe as written as the butter adds a subtle richness to the Zuchini Noodles. This is one of the tips used by the French when cooking. Make the vegetables taste so darn decadent that you don’t even miss the starch. Whatever you decide, please, for the love of everything that is holy and right, don’t go stone cold crazy and use one of those ghastly butter substitutes like “I Can’t Believe it’s not Butter.” Um yes, we all can.

Lemon Butter Garlic Chicken Thighs with Zuchini Noodles

The lemon, butter, garlic and herbs marry with hearty chicken and savory herbs to create a delightfully healthy dish that is perfect anytime of year.  I will issue a fair warning that the tangy and herbaceous sauce would make even dirty cardboard taste good!!! You won’t even miss those pesky white carbohydrates that have zero nutritional value.  This isn’t some unapproachable culinary masterpiece. Just good food made from healthy and fresh ingredients.  If you are missing an ingredient, leave it out or swap it for another.  My only requirement is that you consider using butter and ghee as they provide the silky richness to the dish.  

Course Main Course
Prep Time 30 minutes
Cook Time 20 minutes
Total Time 50 minutes

Ingredients

FOR THE MARINADE

  • 4 Smashed Garlic Cloves
  • 2 Tsp Italian Seasoning
  • 1 Tsp Garlic Powder
  • 1 Tsp Onion Powder
  • 2 Tsp Honey
  • 1 Tbsp Hot Sauce
  • 2 Tsp Kosher Salt
  • 1/4 Cup Olive Oil
  • 1/4 Cup White Vinegar
  • Zest of 1 Lemon
  • Juice of 1 Lemon
  • 1/2 Tsp Freshly Cracked Pepper
  • 1/2 Cup Water
  • 4 Chicken Thighs

FOR THE VEGETABLES

  • 1 Tbsp Unsalted Butter
  • 2 Cloves Garlic Finely Chopped
  • Juice of 1 Lemon
  • 1 Tbsp Hot Sauce Optional
  • 1 Jalapeño Deseeded & Finely Chopped
  • 1 Red Pepper Sliced into matchsticks
  • 8 Oz Baby Bella Musrooms Sliced
  • 3-5 Cups Spiralized Zuchini Noodles
  • Sea Salt & Pepper
  • 2 tsp butter & hot sauce to finish the vegetables after cooking

COOKING THE CHICKEN

  • 1 Tbsp Ghee
  • 1 Tbsp Coconut Oil
  • Sea Salt & Freshly Ground Pepper

Instructions

MARINADE

  1. Gently combine all marinade ingredients in a sealable container or zip lock bag (save the earth and use a glass container if you can).  Gently turn chicken in marinade several times.  Either marinate chicken on the countertop at room temperature  for 30 mins or up to 24 hours in the refrigerator.  If marinating overnight, let chicken sit at room temperature for at least 15 minutes before cooking.  

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COOKING THE CHICKEN

  1. Heat ghee and coconut oil over medium-low heat in a large heavy pan (preferable cast iron).

  2. Using tongs, remove chicken from marinade and place on a paper towel lined plate.  Gently use another paper towel to blot away any additional moisture from the chicken.  Removing the liquid will make sure the chicken achieves a flavorful crispy crust during cooking.  Season both sides of chicken with sea salt and freshly cracked black pepper

  3. Using tongs, gently place chicken in the pan skin side down.  Place another pan or a grill press on top of the chicken to weight it down.  Set a timer and don’t touch that chicken for 7 minutes!!! Using tongs, gently turn chicken to the other side and let cook for another 5 minutes.  Remove to a plate and let chicken rest.

COOKING THE VEGETABLES

  1. WASH AND PREPARE ALL VEGETABLES BEFORE YOU BEGIN THE NEXT COOKING STEPS.  IF YOU TRY TO CHOP, DICE AND CLEAN WHILE COOKING THE VEGGIES THEN EITHER YOUR GARLIC AND BUTTER WILL BURN, YOUR ZUCCHINI NOODLES WILL BE OVERCOOKED AND MUSHY, OR WORSE, BOTH OF THESE KITCHEN CATASTROPHES WILL OCCUR.  I HAVE FOREWARNED YOU.  DON’T BLAME JACKIE.  

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  2. Wipe out the pan used to cook the chicken.  Return pan to stove.  On low heat, melt 1 tbsp butter.

  3. Add garlic, lemon juice and hot sauce to the melted butter. Sauté, turning frequently, until garlic is fragrant.  About 1-2 minutes depending on the freshness of your garlic.  Add jalapeño and saute for another minutes.  

  4. Add sliced red peppers and season with with salt and pepper.  Sauté for 1 minute.  Turning occasionally. Add mushroom and season with salt and pepper.  Sauté for 1 minute.  Turning occasionally.  

  5. Using tongs, gently fold in Zuchini Noodles.  Be careful as the noodles are delicate.  Season with salt and pepper and cook for no more than 3 minutes, gently turning occasionally to soak the noodles in the pan sauce. You want the noodles under-cooked and not over-cooked.  Remove pan from heat and gently fold in additional butter, hot sauce and any chicken drippings from the plate holding the cooked chicken.  You can certainly omit this step but you will be sorry as this creates the silky finish that we all know and love.  

  6. Serve immediatly garnished with a lemon.  If somehow you have any leftovers (we did not) then store in an airtight container in the refrigerator for lunch or dinner tomorrow.  

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As always, thank you for stopping by Jackie Unfiltered. I am still not shopping for the first 6 months of 2019. I will write a blog post and let you know how that’s going later this week. Until then, happy cooking and have a great week!

Xoxo,
Jackie

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Fashion, Uncategorized

6 Months of No Shopping

January 13, 2019
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For the first 6 moths of 2019, I am challenging myself to give up shopping. This includes clothing, accessories, shoes, household appliances, furniture and all other retail. I’m #shoppingmycloset for everything that comes up and taking a retail break to focus on other ish. 

January 1: We went to bed at 6am on New Year’s Day and are still recovering.

I will try to post as many outfits as I can during this “No Shopping Challenge” but mostly I will post how not shopping makes me feel, what space it frees up for other things I am interested in accomplishing and how creating new looks from existing pieces sparks creativity. 

January 2: Wore a favorite old caftan, fedora and shoes I wore once over the summer for dinner with #Hubbs & visiting friends.

Join me on the challenge if you like or just cheer me on from the sidelines cause your girl Jackie will need HELP as she knows a thing or three about #retailtherapy.  Please build a tall, high and wide fence around my favorites stores, brands and websites.  Earlier this week, I had to unsubscribe from certain retail emails because the resort pieces and clearance sales were already taunting me! ???‍♀️??

Xoxo,
Jackie

January 5: An old Tibi off the shoulder top with printed pants and rattan accessories for a romantic lazy lunch with the #Hubbs.


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Columbian Inspired Resort Style in Miami

December 26, 2018
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I stalk Columbian designers from clothing to shoes and bold accessories. I really dig the effortless, sexy vibe and their expert use of colors, textures, patterns and silhouettes

In yesterday’s South Beach Christmas Day #ootd, I tried to recreate that South American swag with a fringed caftan and statement raffia earrings from the boutique Everything But Water by Rhode Resort, a boxy inexpensive straw bag from Zara, a wide cotton obi type belt from Silvia Tcherassi and my signature straw hat. This one is a flat top boater style by Hat Attack.

My flat “greek style” chestnut sandals kept everything easy breezy and allowed me to bar hop with #Hubbs from one Art Deco SoBe hotel to another.  I like the unfussy but slightly dressed up result of this ensemble.  It was Christmas Day after all and you already know how I feel ‘bout December fanciness….

Thank you for stopping by Jackie Unfiltered. Hope you had an excellent holiday with family and friends.  If you like #JackiesStyleFile, leave a message below or shoot us an email at Jackie@jackieunfiltered.com. We would love to get your feedback!

Besos,
Jackie

Etcetera, Uncategorized

Kerry Washington’s stellar performance in the broadway Play “American Son”

December 20, 2018
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Last weekend, #Hubbs and I saw the broadway play “American Son” starring Kerry Washington which was co-produced by my dear friend Lu-Shawn M. Benbow-Thompson. This poignant story dives into the present-day complexities of an interracial marriage and the challenges parents face raising young black men in an urban community where tensions exists between police and minorities. The topic is relevant and heavy but the 4-actor cast also does a great job of creating lighter moments and giving the audience chances to laugh, exhale and say, “yeah, that’s messed up but true.”

As Kerry Washington explained in the “talk back”  after her heart wrenching and stellar performance, this play will likely be one of the important scripts in the theatrical canon. It deals with hard topics such as race, white privilege, racism, stereotypes, police brutality and fear just to name a few. We rarely meaningfully discuss any of this in mixed company meaning black and brown people talking to white people. However, this fictional family opens up the door of discussion. As we have learned from history, without a national conversation, social change is almost impossible.

I woke up the Sunday after the play thinking that it’s almost ironic (and a little sad) that “American Son,” gives voices to the same “double consciousness” that in 1903 W.E.B. DuBoise, famously writes about in “Souls of Black Folk:”

It is a peculiar sensation, this double consciousness, this sense of always looking at one’s self through the eyes of other, of measuring one’s soul by the tape of a world that looks on in amused contempt and pity. One ever feels his two-ness, [meaning feeling like both ] an American [and] a Negro, two souls, two thoughts, two unreconciled strivings, two warring ideals in one dark body… The history of the American Negro is the history of this strife- this longing to attain self-consciousness…to merge his double self into a better and truer self. In this merging, [he does not want to lose his black self.] He [also] does not wish to Africanize America, for America has too much to teach the world and Africa. He wouldn’t bleach his Negro blood in a flood of White Americanism, for he knows that Negro blood has a message for the world. He simply wishes to make it possible for a man to be both Negro and an American without being cursed and spit upon by his fellows, without having the doors of opportunity roughly closed in his face.” —

American Son has a limited run in this form meaning it will close January 27, 2019.  WE ALL need to see this performance. We should see it with our children, our parents, our friends and our significant others. We should see it with our white friends, our black friends, our Hispanic friends, our African friends and so on.  Once we see it, we should talk about the way it made us feel: sad, isolated, misunderstood, celebrated and even tormented. Because in these difficult discussions, we will find some truth and understanding. American history teaches us that with understanding, we find progress.

Click HERE to PURCHASE tickets!

Xoxo,
Jackie

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Social Media helps to Expand the Black Experience in America

December 14, 2018
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Last weekend, #Hubbs and I attended an annual Holiday Party at the famous University Club on 5th Avenue in New York City.    This image is by far my favorite one one of the night!

Black people are often not seen like this. Our experience is marginalized into a small “one size fits all” box.  The game changing thing about social platforms like Facebook, Instagram and whatever is hot in the streets right now is that it democratizes media meaning it gives each of us the chance to shape our story through pictures and words. To demonstrate the breadth of who and what we are, the places we show up and the triumphs, joys and struggles we go through and overcome. 

This image is not only beautiful because the people are “hashtag extra fancy” in their black tie regalia.  But it’s particularly wonderful because these black couples stand under portraits of men who probably never considered our unlikely stories.  This picture reminds me of Justice Thurgood Marshall’s quote:

None of us got here where we are solely by pulling ourselves up by the bootstraps.  We got here because somebody — a parent, a teacher, an Ivy League crony or a few nuns — bent down and helped us pick up our boots.  

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Happy Holidays everyone. May we all find time to spend moments with people who have or continue to impact our lives in positive ways.  

Xoxo,
Jackie

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Fashion, Uncategorized

Leopard Will Always Save the Style Day

December 14, 2018
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This look is perfect for a casual day at the office, running errands on the weekends, a quick bite with girlfriends during the holiday or even an impromptu date night with your boo.

I didn’t mention in my last post that my new favorite leopard coat has a detachable green velvet belt!  Well, it does.  There is nothing that a curvy girl like myself desires more than a cinched waist.  I shouldn’t love a piece of fabric this much. How-so-eva, it’s the little things that matter most in life …

If you care about the rest of this joint (how could you given the exceptional coat), the orange sweater is really an oversized sweater dress I bought last winter from H&M.  I like that it’s oversized because it makes it easier to wear. Effortless but cute style was the goal today as I ran around NYC from appointment to appointment jumping on and off trains in freezing cold rain.  

The knee high dark brown clog boots are from one of my favorite Soho shopping haunts, the No.6 Store.  They are sooooo comfortable. Despite the 2.5 inch heel with 1 inch platform, I can walk for miles in these boots. They are also waterproof which is perfect for the NYC weather today. This rich chocolate color reminds me of vintage Ralph Lauren. They are the kind of boots that last a lifetime and only get better with age. The natural patina and scuffs tell the stories of days past.

My cheery ski slope green hat and gloves were part of the Tory Sport gifts they sent over a few weeks ago. I think they pair perfectly with the leopard and orange. Thank you again Tory Sport!

The tote is Gucci from the men’s side of the store.It’s a recent purchase. Sshhh, please don’t tell the #Hubbs. I needed a new tote that would fit my electronics and girlie stuff when I wanted to look professional and put together. The strap is detachable. However, today, the classic green and red Gucci stripe paired perfectly with the rest of my running around town look.

As always, thank youfor stopping by Jackie Unfiltered and taking a look at #JackiesStyleFile.  We hope you are enjoying these December days.  Tag @jackieunfiltered_ in your holiday posts so we can check out what you’re wearing this season!

Xoxo,
Jackie

Fashion, Uncategorized

Style comes from the inside and has nothing to do with labels

December 10, 2018
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Over the last few years, I have worked hard to learn about myself meaning understanding my fears, unpacking my self-doubt and healing my wounds.  In this process, I have also uncovered my personal style.  It has never been clearer to me that the outside can’t manifest what’s not on the inside.  Style has nothing to do with labels, clothing or makeup.  Style has everything to do with soul. A woman who has made peace with where she came from, accepted who she is and remains excited about whatever the future holds will look sexy as hell in a paper bag, red lipstick and bare feet.  

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As always, thank you for stopping by Jackie Unfiltered.  Send us a message about style, your favorite fashion images or leave a comment below.  It’s our absolute favorite topic to discuss. 

Xoxo,
Jackie

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Fashion, Uncategorized

Marigold Yellow, Red & Leopard Outfit Color Story

December 9, 2018
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One of last week’s outfits was inspired by Michael Kors 2018 Autumn/Winter runway collection.  I am obsessed with how Kors worked leopard into almost every runway look combining this nuetral print with tartan plaid, dainty silk flower prints and bright colors like marigold and red.  

I recently tagged along to infamous Kleinfeld Bridal in NYC with my friend Janna as she searches for the perfect wedding dress for her 2019 nuptials.  The gentleman in the middle is Shaymus Yarbrough (“Shay”), a Kleinfeld Bridal consultant.  If you’re shopping for your big day, call Shay.  He listens.  He KNOWS the dresses and their different fits.  He’s honest and not overselling.  His vocabulary is off the charts good.  Janna is still considering several dresses.  I am a fan of the “coquettish.”

At first glance, I thought I couldn’t pull off this marigold cable knit sweater. Yellow is not typically one of my strong colors as I have so much gold in my skin’s natural undertones.  As I analyzed these pictures for this post, I still say that perhaps it’s still it’s not my best shade.  Nonetheless, I am drawn to this cheery hue.  I also really adore the fitted but chunky silhouette.  Most sweaters are either over sized or fitted. The cut of this sweater is genius as the knit provides the heft without the bulk.  

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As for the skirt, I’ve worn this 6-year old navy blue circle skirt from Tibi more times than I can count.  It goes from day-to-night. Casual to glam. I have even pulled it out for a black tie event pairing it with a white Wolford turtleneck bodysuit, sparkly belt and high fashion makeup. It’s a closet workhorse.  I have a new navy Alaia crop top that I plan to mix it up with later this winter. These are the type of closet staples (well made, neutral and versatile) that I suggest women invest in over and over again.  For your body type and personal style, that may mean a pencil skirt or even a mini. Find the shape that works for you and rock it! 

Let’s finally talk shoes. Folks are always surprised when I say that I am not a “shoe gal.”  I would never consider buying a shoe that is uncomfortable. These red boots are a recent acquisition from Aquazurra Black Friday sale.  I like the sensible 85mm heel height, 360 croc effect from toe to heel and of course the red color!  While these boots may seem like a bold choice, they perfectly pair with half my closet and most of the items I bought this autumn/winter.  I only invest in shoes that will stay with me for the long haul.  Also, I’m a New Yorker so shoes must be comfortable enough to walk a few city blocks.  We are never sure that the Uber will pick us up in front of a building, that taxis will be readily available or that we won’t have to hop on the train to avoid traffic and get where we need to go fast.  

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This is me headed to the Harlem School of the Arts annual Black Tie Masquerade Gala.  I took the train to midtown that day because that is the only way to get anywhere during rush hour in Manhattan.  

Thank you for stopping by Jackie Unfiltered and taking part in another #JackiesStyleFile.   We hope you are enjoying these busy holidays.   Whether you spend December running from event to event like I do or take a calmer approach and do more stuff around the house, for the love of everything that is good and true, enjoy each day in “style.”  We only live once. 

Xoxo,
Jackie

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A Faux Fur Leopard Coat adds Interest to Winter Style

December 6, 2018
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If you live in a 4 season place like New York City for 15 years, you have collected enough coats, hats, gloves and sweater to outfit a small country.  The variety in color, shape and material is the only thing that gets us through six months of cold, very little sun and short ass days.

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I purchased this new acquisition from an online shop I found on instagram, Shop Nichole Lynel.  I of course love the leopard print, faux fur and green collar detail.  But I more love that I purchased it from a company run by a woman of color who seems to have a tunnel vision for her path to victory.  This is the type of retail I want to support.

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While this coat might seem wild and crazy, it’s actually quite versatile.  It would equally amazing draped across the shoulders with a little black dress, tights, heels and a deep black red lip.  It comes with a detachable green velvet belt so it would also look tres chic belted over skinny jeans or leather pants with a borrowed from the boys oversized type shirt.  The possibilities are literally endless with this one size fits all number.

Sadly, my faux fur leopard coat is currently sold out but there are plenty of faux fur options in the stores and online right now.   You can grab one at every price point from inexpensive to runway couture:  Nordstrom, Bloomingdales, Saks Fifth Avenue or Net-A-Porter to link just a few.  I will caution that if you are diving into the fur trend, don’t spend a bunch of money until you are sure it’s a look for you.  Test the waters with a lower price point and a fun color before face diving into this whole furry moment.  By the way, that’s the way you try any new trend.  Inexpensive first.  Invest later.

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As always, thank you for stopping by Jackie Unfiltered.  Wishing you a Happy Holiday season that is well dressed and lots of fun!

xoxo,
Jackie

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